A Key to Happiness
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Happiness, the feeling that most people are hopeful to actually “feel” and experience. The feeling that is so difficult to describe. Happpiness is the feeling that I work hard towards achieving in my own life. It is also one of the feelings that I wish to experience more of. I seem to be searching for that feeling lately, that experience, those moments that I can just sit in and soak in and hope that they never disintegrate. Happiness, is it a feeling? Or is it an experience? Or is it a place? Is it a state of mind? Or is it just one more thing that people search for and rarely find? Or is it something that a person finds but can’t hold on to it for a prolonged period of time?
I have pondered the idea of happiness for a long time now. I have had many moments of happiness in my life. These moments are what I call the “ta-da” moments of my life.
A Few of my Ta-Da Moments
- One of my favorite happiness moments was the day I became a Christian. I had spent years searching for my life’s purpose and in my search all I found was emptiness and darkness. It was full of disappointments, fear, uncertainty and no real direction. The day I became a Christian was the day that all that started to change. It didn’t all change overnight, but as I drew near to God, He provided what I was searching for. In fact, He still provides for me.
- The moment that I saw my husband waiting for me at the alter and then committing ourselves one to another caused happiness to over come me. We had both waited until we were in our thirties to marry and we both lived with the idea that we would always remain single. Ever since I was a little girl I dreamt that my further husband would be my best friend. This was a dream that’s came true in my life.
- My wedding was also a moment when I was overcome with happiness. Seeing my dad whose dress code for years had been a t-shirt and sweat pants now dressed in a tuxedo and looking more handsome than I have ever seen him looking before. Knowing that he was willing to be uncomfortable for the day, just for me. Wow, I have to tell you, that made me feel loved and of course it made me very happy. It wasn’t so much because he was feeling uncomfortable, it was because even in his discomfort he had a sparkle in his eye and a look of love on his face.
- The day that my husband came home from the hospitalafter months of illness. That evening I was extremely happy as I had experienced moments where I wasn’t sure if he would ever make it back home at all. Going through the struggles of pain and heartache and coming out on the other side. Not only did this cause happiness it also caused great gratitude.
- Words of love, encouragement and hope cause feelings of happiness to stir up within me.
- Getting a phone call from my mom and spending time catching up with one another’s lives. Knowing that even though we are miles apart physically, we still have a strong emotional bond, this makes my heart happy.
- Stepping on the scale and seeing the numbers drop knowing that I worked hard all week in regards to exercise and nutrition makes me happy.
- Getting lost in a book with a cup of tea beside me and the quietness of the space surrounding me is an experience of happiness that I treat myself to when I am able.
- Doing something for another and lightening their load causes happiness for me. Being able to give to others, whether anonymously or in person. Seeing the joy on someone else’s face, knowing that I may have had a small part in putting it there, causes my heart to swell with those precious happy emotions.
The fact is these moments don’t happen on a daily basis – they are the “ta-da” moments of my life. These are experiences that I am part but they are not part of my everyday existence. They don’t seem to happen all the time and when they do occur they tend to stand out for me. They are noticeable, not only from my personal perspective but others looking in can notice them too. If I depended on my happiness to be determined by these “ta-da” moments, I believe that I would find myself in terrible trouble. I may as well just settle to feel apathetic and keep plugging along in life, searching and hoping for those remote times that I can catch the ever elusive feeling of “happiness”. How sad that would be. The complete opposite of what happiness truly is.
It’s Inside Me
I have discovered in my life’s journey that happiness is much more than searching for the next experience and the next “ta-da” moment. I discovered that I have held one of the keys to my very own happiness all along. The key is pretty simple for me — I have the gift of choice.
I get to choose everyday how to respond to life. I get to make the choice on how I look at all sorts of different situations. I can look at them and be mindful of looking for the positive, for the grace, and for the lessons that will benefit my life. I can also choose to look at them with a negative perspective, looking for the worst to happen. I can choose to sit in self pity or I can choose to let the self pity go . I have the choice to put on an attitude of gratitude and put my joy bloomers on or I can stay in my cranky pants and be downcast.
I have discovered that I can be happy in the midst of the storms in my life. I am no longer searching for the “ta-da” moments – hoping that there will be one just around the corner. I am now being mindful everyday to look for the happiness in the every day events of my life. I am putting my joy bloomers on and am putting on an attitude of gratitude and looking for all the things that I can be grateful for.
Today I am making a choice to be happy.
Be blessed. 💞💞💞